10 Meaningful and Creative Ways to Show Love to Your Partner

 

Estimated read time: 12 minutes

Are you looking for ways to reconnect with your partner after having a baby?

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it’s easy to feel the pressure that this slightly competitive holiday can bring with it. And if you are a new parent, then it may feel like Valentine’s Day is not in the cards for you.

Most research suggests that couples become less happy in their relationship after they become parents. If this sounds like you, know that you are not alone. And, more importantly, hope is not lost! There are ways to reconnect with your partner after having a baby, and we are here to help.

The love between partners, where grand romantic gestures can’t always be easily achieved…especially if you’re partners who also happen to be brand new parents. The kind of love that makes each other feel appreciated, seen, and heard. 

Yes. We adore over-the-top displays of love, but even something as simple as a supportive arm around the shoulder, a little text to say how proud you are of them, or picking up takeout for dinner when you know your partner has had a tough day. These creative ways to show love can be just as special.

If you are looking for tips for new parents to stay connected or are wondering how to show your partner that you love them and want to rebuild intimacy as new parents, read on.

We are going to help you express love to your partner in actions and words when you don’t know what to say with our favorite unique and meaningful ways to show love to your partner.

In this article:

• Showing Love to Each Other as New Parents
• Balancing Love and Parenting
• 10 Ways to Express Love After Having a Baby
• Compliment Each Other
• Make a Date Night at Home
• Lighten Their Load
• Write Them a Love Letter
• Opt for Day Dates
• Create a Playlist
• Hold Hands
• Leave Surprise Love Notes
• Don’t Offer. Just Do.
• Find a Shared Hobby

Showing Love to Each Other as New Parents

Let’s face it.

When a new baby comes along, life gets a heck of a lot busier. You and your partner might have had regular date nights, they might have shown up with flowers to surprise you, or you might have enjoyed long, cozy nights on the couch watching Netflix and…chilling.

But throw a new baby into the mix and suddenly those one-on-one times get less and less frequent. New parents are often tired, stressed, and out of touch with themselves but overwhelmed with love for their new baby. This can also mean you tend to spend less time together in a romantic sense than before.  

It can be frustrating and even upsetting.

 

Balancing Love and Parenting

The love you shared as a couple has now expanded to make room for your gorgeous little one, and it’s pretty normal for your relationship to play second fiddle to your new baby, at least for the first few months or the early years. You’re exhausted from pulling all-nighters to change, feed, and calm your baby, which can make tensions high. 

And that’s OK. 

After some time, when life feels like it’s settled into more of a routine, you might find that you and your partner form an even closer kind of intimacy and love. You’ve been there for each other during a tough transition period. You’ve both stepped up to the plate and have created, grown, and nurtured a brand new life. You or your partner might have put your careers on hold to care for your little one. Nights out with friends might have been replaced with nights in with your new little family. 

All of these sacrifices and responsibilities should be acknowledged and appreciated by both of you. There is no greater expression of love than showing how much you value and appreciate each other.

Sure, there’ll be times when your partner might get on your last nerve (or you on theirs), but that’s real life. Raising babies is a tough job, but as long as you are there for each other, speak to each other, and listen to each other, you will get through it. And the love you feel for each other will get even deeper and more meaningful.

You’re in this together. But if you’re feeling the strain and you’re missing the love, connection, and affection you and your partner enjoyed, then there are things you can do to rekindle the fire and still show love and appreciation for each other. Nurturing your relationship after childbirth takes work, and expressing love amidst parenting challenges isn’t always easy.

If you are asking, “How do I reconnect with my partner after having a baby?” we are going to give you a helping hand.

Let’s look at some simple but powerful creative ways to show love on Valentine’s Day and every day!

 

 

10 Ways to Express Love After Having a Baby

Bringing a new baby into the world and your home can be one of the most awesome, beautiful, and life-changing events you’ll ever experience. But the transition that comes from going from a couple to a family can be challenging to navigate, and it’s totally normal for relationships to change. 

Caring for a baby can take its toll - mentally and physically - and it can make it that much harder to find time for each other. Plus a lot of your exhaustion and frustration gets directed at one another. Hey, it happens. Look for the strength to turn towards each other as new parents and you are going to be alright.

If you find yourself in this situation, don’t worry Breastie, you’re not alone. And, there are plenty of things you can do to show your partner the love you’re feeling but do not have the time to express. There are many ways to connect as a couple after a new baby arrives and we are here to guide you.

Here are 10 ways to show love and care that can help you reconnect and rekindle the love you share for each other.

1. Compliment Each Other

A little compliment can go a long way. Even if you’re both exhausted from working, caring for your baby, and keeping the house together, you should always try and make a little time to show your appreciation for each other. 

Compliments can help nurture and enhance relationships and do wonders for your bond, and, they take no time at all to muster! Just make sure your compliment is genuine and sincere. Something as simple as “You look beautiful today,” “That dinner you made was incredible,” “I’m so proud of how hard you worked to finish that report,” and “You’re an amazing parent,” can make all the difference in their day.

2. Make a Date Night at Home

Listen, date nights are a must for new parents. We know how hard it can be getting out of the house when you have little ones. But date nights are so important for connecting, and finding time for connection as a new parent can be tough.

Let’s be honest though, you don’t need to leave the house to have an awesome date night!

Once your baby has settled down for the night (if they can), order your favorite takeout, line up the latest binge-able series on Netflix, turn down the lights, light the candles, pour some wine, and just be with each other. Try not to talk about parenting or your little one, and instead, talk to each other about each other. Make this time all about you and reconnecting. Even if one of you has to get up to soothe the baby once in a while, you can still enjoy some special time together. 

3. Lighten Their Load

Is there something that is usually your partner’s “job” in the house? Is it something that you could potentially do or something that you have the energy to do? Say they’re the one who tends to wash up after dinner, walk the dog in the evening, or fill the car with gas. Show them you care and don’t take their effort for granted by surprising them and doing the chore instead.  

This might sound like a small gesture, but it shows you appreciate their contribution and how they’ve taken it upon themselves to take charge. By you doing it for them once in a while, it’s a lovely way to show them…well…that you love them.

And, yes. They can totally do the same for you too!

4. Write Them a Love Letter

Come on, how cute would it be to receive an actual handwritten love letter from your partner? A letter filled with your feelings and thoughts about them. Writing something by hand also requires more time and energy, not to mention thought. 

Your letter doesn’t have to be Shakespeare - heck, it doesn’t even have to be long. It just needs to be written from the heart. We guarantee it’ll be something they cherish forever. This is one of our favorite creative ways to show love for sure.

5. Opt for "Day Dates"

New parent hack! Here’s one of our favorite “date night ideas” for new parents. Ok, we love the idea of going out for a date night but you’re just too wiped out in the evening to actually go out? (Same here, btw!)

Date nights for new parents are overrated. Try day dates! That’s right.

You don’t have to wait for the stars to come out to spend quality time together. If your little one goes to daycare, or you can get family or a friend to look after them for a couple of hours, why not head out for a day date? It can be during a lunch break at work or even stopping for breakfast on the way to work, a latte and a muffin at your local coffee shop or just doing some chores together. 

You might even find it more relaxing to spend time together during the day, when you have more energy and your little one is being cared for. So, the next time you are feeling overwhelmed about going out for a date night, try the day date idea for new parents. When you eventually get more rest (and it will happen) you can upgrade your day dates, for date nights!

6. Create a Playlist 

OK, this one is really fun.  

Think about all the songs that have meant something to you both in your relationship. Maybe a first dance song, a song that reminds you of each other, a song that has lyrics that make you think of them, or even silly songs that make you both laugh.

Now, create a Spotify playlist (so much easier than the days of mixed tapes!), and name it after them. They can play it whenever they want to and feel the love. So cute.

7. Hold Hands

How easy is this one? Physical intimacy can often be the first thing to take a backseat when you become new parents. But being physical with each other doesn’t have to mean having sex. Maintaining intimacy as new parents is easier said than done, sometimes.

Try holding their hand the next time you sit on the sofa together or out for a walk. Put your arm around their waist. Place your head on their shoulder. Look them in the eyes when you tell them you love them. Intimacy is about the little touches and looks that might not seem like a big deal but can mean so much.

 

8. Leave Surprise Love Notes

Wondering how to express love to your partner in words? Surprise love notes are such a sweet creative way to show love to your partner with hardly any effort needed.

Grab some little sticky notes and write as many loving messages as you can. They can be anything from how much you love them, what your favorite thing about them is, something you admire about them, or anything else you can think of. 

Now put the notes in creative places. Their underwear drawer, purse or wallet, inside their mug, stuck on the steering wheel, or in their workbag. Every time they find one of your notes, it will make them smile and remind them how loved they are.

 

9. Don't Offer. Just Do.

Sometimes, the mental load of being asked what needs doing around the house, or having someone offer to do something can actually add to the mental load. You suddenly have to think of things on the to-do list, possibly explain what and how to do it, and accept that it might not be done exactly how you do it.

While it’s always good to offer to help, if you know what needs doing…just do it. Don’t ask. Don’t make a fuss. Don’t tell them you’ve done it and expect a thank you. Just do it because it helps take something off their plate, and that’s a beautiful and thoughtful way of showing love.

10. Find a Shared Hobby 

It’s healthy and normal to have our own interests and hobbies. Variety is the spice of life after all. But if you’re looking for a creative way to show love to each other, why not think of a hobby or activity you could share together?

This could provide some vital bonding and reconnecting time outside of the house, a chance to make fun new memories together, and just enjoy each other’s company. Whether it’s a yoga or pottery class, a book club, or a wine-tasting class, try to go out of your comfort zone for each other and enjoy your new hobby! 

Enjoy These Creative Ways to Show Love

And enjoy each other Breast Friend.

You and your partner are each other’s cheerleaders. You’re together in this parenthood journey, but you’re also on a relationship journey. There will be ups and downs, highs and lows, joy and challenges, but showing your love for each other can make the journey that much sweeter. 

Remember, you don’t always have to go big to make an impact. Love is the little things, right? The small and meaningful gestures are just as important. 

 

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